I’ve been seeing a lot of #SuicideAwareness posts across all social media platforms lately — which, generally, is a good thing. There IS a problem that we don’t like to discuss, and there IS a need to address some rather serious issues (in addition to any and all offers of help and assistance). However, the majority of these posts boil down to people saying “After you kill yourself, your family and friends are going to have to live with the pain. Don’t be selfish.”
Are you fucking kidding me?! THAT’S how you are trying to save people?
You want to know what’s really selfish? Telling someone whose spirit is dying more and more each day (to the point where they consider ENDING. THEIR. FUCKING. LIFE.) that suicide is wrong because of how it will make YOU feel. Honestly, it feels as narrow-minded to me as when white people tell me I shouldn’t use “the N-word.”
Nigga, fuck you.
Look, I don’t necessarily think that killing yourself is the answer, but I’m not going to try to guilt someone into continuing through a life of misery just because that won’t fuck up my plans. I struggle every single day with my depression, so I know what it’s like to already be unhappy and/or disgusted with yourself. People who are dealing with such darkness don’t need any added shame dumped on top of them. Especially if it’s only coming from someone else’s self-important need to not be sad.
Instead of browbeating your loved one, how about you do everything to remind them that they are a loved one? Be there for them. Talk to them, and show some real compassion by actually listening to what they have to say.
Be the loved one that they need.
1-800-273-TALK (8255), National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, available 24 hours everyday.